What REALLY???

Catholisism.

No sex before marrage. Apparently they can have sex with people that they dont think there is a future with, but if they see a long term future with a person, then its a very firm 'No thank you'.

I dont understand this AT ALL. And on so many levels.
Ok, so religious beliefs are held to the very centre of the person who believes in that religion, and each to their own and all that, but surely the 'I can if i dont like you, and I cant if I do' is contradictory and just backward.

Now, alot of religions believe that you should wear white on your wedding day because you are pure and virginal. And you should keep yourself for the one you are going to spend the rest of your life with. And thats a lovely idea, but who really does it? I mean really does it????

I know I couldnt. (please can family members who read this now stop reading!!) I dont believe that I could marry in haste..... I cant see that working for me, and for the other person in the relationship with me. ~I take a long time to trust anybody, so cannot see myself marrying anyone quickly. So therefore I will also not be having sex for a long time.

Also I would never marry anyone I had not had sex with. I really wouldnt. I, now this may be a girl thing, or just a me thing, but I 'test' people with things. I introduce my new/current partner to different situations and different people and places to see how they react. And how they react says alot about them and I can make choices and decisions based on how they react. Also you have get to know the person you are with, and the more time you spend with them the better you know them. How could you leave a massive part of your relationship unexplored and undiscovered?

So if I was to marry someone with out having sex with them I would feel that I wouldnt know them enough to marry them. What if their sexual preferances were really different to mine. (not going there!!) Or we didnt 'fit' together...you know what I mean, there are people that you have sex with that its just wrong......your bodies dont work together, and if you were honest you'd just put the kettle on and laugh about it.....anyway, what if that happened on your wedding night??!!??

So, as this massive rant probably says without me having to spell it out (!) is that for me religion can keep its vestil virgins. I like sex (please dont be reading this Mumbly) and religious beliefs are not going to make me feel guilty for liking it.


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