"that question"
I was asked last night by someone that I dont know very well what I wanted, where I thought I would be, what my life would look like in 10 years time.
He also said not to think about it, he wanted reaction, not concidered, but a gut/heart reply.
I hate these questions. I feel put on the spot. I try my hardest not to answer questions like this, immediatly turning it round while asking for time to think to the other person, and once you have asked a couple of questions about what they have said, and talked about it, they have nearly always forgotten that they have asked you in the first place.
He wouldnt let me do that! (which was unsual) So I did what he asked. My reply was like this.
I want to earn, not a huge amount, but higher than the national average for full time work, but actually only working part time. I dont think I want to work full time. I like arseing about....be that on my own, with other people/dog/horse. I love being around for Small, and although in 10 years time she will be 18 (oh dear god) and wont need or prolly want me around I will still need to be for her.
I want a big garden. As I have gone on and on previously about time spent in the garden makes me happy. I dont know if its being outside or the growing things or what it is, but I get enormous satisfaction from it.
I want (oh bugger, I am going to get such stick for the remainder of this sentance) to be in a relationship that makes other people sick. I want the 'click/fit/soulmate' thing. I dont know if I believe in it, ....and am guessing that maybe you have to to get it....... but I want it. I have known 3 couples in my adult life that if they split up the world would stop turning. When I hear that most couples have split, I'm sad for them, but not that suprised, for these three couples, it would actually deeply shock me. I dont know if I will ever get that, I dont think I'm a terribly easy person to live with, and the high maintainence thing is always open for debate! (actually I dont think I am that bad, I think everyone is high maintainence to a cirtain extent, I think that if you really *get* someone, then the high maintianence thing just goes away)
So, after answering this question I skuttelled off to the bar. Opening myself up to someone I dont know very well is not a thing I do easily, and I needed time away to recover! Then once returned made the conversation turn to more comfortable things, where I felt I could join in more easily!
lybxx
He also said not to think about it, he wanted reaction, not concidered, but a gut/heart reply.
I hate these questions. I feel put on the spot. I try my hardest not to answer questions like this, immediatly turning it round while asking for time to think to the other person, and once you have asked a couple of questions about what they have said, and talked about it, they have nearly always forgotten that they have asked you in the first place.
He wouldnt let me do that! (which was unsual) So I did what he asked. My reply was like this.
I want to earn, not a huge amount, but higher than the national average for full time work, but actually only working part time. I dont think I want to work full time. I like arseing about....be that on my own, with other people/dog/horse. I love being around for Small, and although in 10 years time she will be 18 (oh dear god) and wont need or prolly want me around I will still need to be for her.
I want a big garden. As I have gone on and on previously about time spent in the garden makes me happy. I dont know if its being outside or the growing things or what it is, but I get enormous satisfaction from it.
I want (oh bugger, I am going to get such stick for the remainder of this sentance) to be in a relationship that makes other people sick. I want the 'click/fit/soulmate' thing. I dont know if I believe in it, ....and am guessing that maybe you have to to get it....... but I want it. I have known 3 couples in my adult life that if they split up the world would stop turning. When I hear that most couples have split, I'm sad for them, but not that suprised, for these three couples, it would actually deeply shock me. I dont know if I will ever get that, I dont think I'm a terribly easy person to live with, and the high maintainence thing is always open for debate! (actually I dont think I am that bad, I think everyone is high maintainence to a cirtain extent, I think that if you really *get* someone, then the high maintianence thing just goes away)
So, after answering this question I skuttelled off to the bar. Opening myself up to someone I dont know very well is not a thing I do easily, and I needed time away to recover! Then once returned made the conversation turn to more comfortable things, where I felt I could join in more easily!
lybxx
posted by lyb | 1:54 AM
1 Comments:
oh dear god....you've got the whole loved up thing going on too!!!
buckets at the ready!!
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