'The Others'
In our lives how much do other people's opinions matter to us?
I guess that depends on each person individualy. For some, the thought of not receiving approval from their peers and family is horrifing. Their lives are lived seeking that approval, and will change what they want to do depending on the thoughts morals and opinions of those held round them, rather than what they actually think themselves.
For others the thoughts and getting approval of others isnt at all important. They live their lives dependant on what they believe and want.
Does this depend on age? I think it does. When you are young you are led by your peers and it takes a very strong individual to go their own way and not follow the crowd. As you get older you have more belief in your self and your values and so can make decisions on your own and know that they are right for you, independantly of what your family and friends think.
I also think that friends and family 'back off' as you get older, and my experiance is that they mostly only give advise when asked, or when I am about to make a huge mistake and they cant keep their mouths shut, but in situations such as these, you mostly know what your doing is not the most sensible thing to do, and although you can find justification for it, deep down it just doesnt work. You can cover this up for as long as you like, but I think if you know yourself well enough then eventually you do the right thing.
So, the question I am asking myself this morning is 'In my life right now, am I making the right decisions?'
I have pondered this quietly for a month or so. And although I have already made note of the justifications people make about their lives, I have to say that there is not one thing I would change. Obviously there are things that are going to be difficult in the coming months. But the outcome is one that I welcome.
My living situation is not perfect by any stretch of the imagination, but that will sort itself out soon, and I am soooo excited about it.
My friends are the best anyone could wish for.
My family is fantastic. They are quietly supportive and noisily loving.
School is nearly over for the summer(....4 months off!!!) and i cant wait to be bored!
Mr W. is around. Grin
So in the vein that seems to be running throughout this posting and previous ones at the moment is....HORRAY!!!!
lybxx
I guess that depends on each person individualy. For some, the thought of not receiving approval from their peers and family is horrifing. Their lives are lived seeking that approval, and will change what they want to do depending on the thoughts morals and opinions of those held round them, rather than what they actually think themselves.
For others the thoughts and getting approval of others isnt at all important. They live their lives dependant on what they believe and want.
Does this depend on age? I think it does. When you are young you are led by your peers and it takes a very strong individual to go their own way and not follow the crowd. As you get older you have more belief in your self and your values and so can make decisions on your own and know that they are right for you, independantly of what your family and friends think.
I also think that friends and family 'back off' as you get older, and my experiance is that they mostly only give advise when asked, or when I am about to make a huge mistake and they cant keep their mouths shut, but in situations such as these, you mostly know what your doing is not the most sensible thing to do, and although you can find justification for it, deep down it just doesnt work. You can cover this up for as long as you like, but I think if you know yourself well enough then eventually you do the right thing.
So, the question I am asking myself this morning is 'In my life right now, am I making the right decisions?'
I have pondered this quietly for a month or so. And although I have already made note of the justifications people make about their lives, I have to say that there is not one thing I would change. Obviously there are things that are going to be difficult in the coming months. But the outcome is one that I welcome.
My living situation is not perfect by any stretch of the imagination, but that will sort itself out soon, and I am soooo excited about it.
My friends are the best anyone could wish for.
My family is fantastic. They are quietly supportive and noisily loving.
School is nearly over for the summer(....4 months off!!!) and i cant wait to be bored!
Mr W. is around. Grin
So in the vein that seems to be running throughout this posting and previous ones at the moment is....HORRAY!!!!
lybxx
posted by lyb | 1:36 AM
1 Comments:
they are and they will!!!
planning to come agin in summer with various others (!) ....have serious sandcastling to do with Small!
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